Where, exactly, is the aporia here? The fact that the dreamer didn’t speak to the girl, didn’t approach her, can’t be explained by shyness (precisely not), it was something else: what he saw and what caused his tears was just the semblance of what he wanted (desired), and, because he realized this, he made no attempt at all. He knew that the semblance of what he saw didn’t originate from what he desired.
Anselm Kiefer, 28 June 1998, in Notebooks: Volume 1, 1998–1999, translated by Tess Lewis